Holy Sexuality Matters

Dan Hitz is the director of Reconciliation Ministries of Michigan, Inc. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in helping men and women overcome sexual brokenness, sexual abuse, and trauma. You can find more recovery articles and testimonies on the Reconciliation Ministries website at https://recmin.org/newsletter-archives.

27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Genesis 1:27-28 NKJV

Why does Biblical sexuality matter? After all, as the world says, “Love is love.” We don’t want to be homophobes or transphobes. Is it really hurting anyone if all we do is look at a little porn now and then? Are we really being haters if we uphold Biblical sexuality? Of course not! We are called to speak the truth in love [Ephesians 4:15]. God created us in His image, and He created us as sexual beings. He told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply” [Genesis 1:28]. God gave us a desire for holy sexuality, and that God-given desire can only be fulfilled as we embrace our sexuality in a holy way.

The enemy has been attacking our sexuality since the Garden of Eden. He knows that if he can corrupt our sexuality, he can drive a deep wedge between us and God. The serpent convinced Adam and Eve that God was holding out on them, and that they should eat the forbidden fruit. God’s heart was to protect Adam and Eve from evil. He created our sexual desires to function within His perfect will. Before they ate the fruit, they were naked and unashamed [Genesis 2:25]. It’s significant to note that the first thing they realized after they ate the fruit was their nakedness. In their shame they sewed fig leaves together to cover their nakedness. In their fear they hid from God [Genesis 3:7-10]. Humans have been hiding from God ever since.

Since we are made in the image of God, the enemy works to corrupt our gender identities. God created two genders, male and female. The latest Google search yields at least 72 gender identities, and presents the idea that gender is now viewed as being on a continuum. If the enemy can confuse people about their gender, he moves them that much further from God’s design of male and female. This either creates more shame and despair, or gets expressed as queer pride. Either way, the wedge between man, woman, and God grows wider.

Ephesians 5:22-33 describes the union between husband and wife as a mystery, and a reflection of Christ and the church. Sinful heterosexual sex, homosexuality, and lesbianism all shatter that beautiful reflection of Christ and the church. Holy Sexuality matters.

We can take heart in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 that offers 2000-year-old evidence of sexual redemption. As we humble ourselves, repent, and surrender our lives to Jesus, He forgives us. He cleanses us. He empowers us to live for Him. If you or someone you know needs help to overcome sexual sin, we at Reconciliation Ministries are here for you. Our Living Waters recovery program is starting soon. We also offer Biblically based professional counseling, mental health coaching, and prayer ministry. Call us today at 586.739.5114. We are here for you.

Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people – none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 NLT

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The Tug of War in Our Heart

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I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do - this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

Romans 7:15-20 NIV

Did you ever ask yourself why you do what you do? Why you engage in sin that tugs at your heart? Many of us have been there. We’ve loved sin and hated it at the same time? Maybe you’ve engaged in self-destructive relationship patterns over and over again hoping that this time things will be different? Self-destructive behaviors always bring destructive results. You’re still empty. You’re still broken. You’re still in pain.

Most of the time We’re not consciously aware of why we’re stuck in these spirals. That’s why we need Jesus. That’s why we need safe people to walk with us to the cross, where the power of God can touch our hearts. He alone can bring change. He alone can search our hearts and show us the wounds that drive us to do what we do. No shame. No condemnation. He offers mercy. He offers forgiveness. He offers the kind of safe love that heals the deep wounds in our hearts and changes our lives.

If you’re hurting or stuck in a broken cycle, know that you have Christian brothers and sisters at Reconciliation Ministries who want to help. Now is the time to reach out and accept that help. Join us for our next session of Living Waters, a 20-week discipleship and inner healing program where you can talk with others who understand what it’s like to struggle with sin and brokenness. We know what it’s like to be wounded by those we thought we could trust. Best of all, we also know how to find victory through Jesus. The Living Waters leaders have each walked through their own healing journeys. They understand what it’s like to struggle with addictive sin and the shame and destruction that it brings. Most importantly, they understand the freedom that comes from meeting Jesus at the cross, where He brings healing and transformation.

Call us today and learn more about how Living Waters can help you find victory. Our Living Waters coordinator, Joan, and her team are waiting to talk with you. Call her at 248.956.0265. Call today and begin taking your first steps towards freedom.

What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

Romans 7:24-25 NIV